WHAT IF GOD'S LOVE FOR YOU IS CLOSER THAN YOU THINK?

Overcome Religious Trauma - Close The Gap Of Separation From God

DO YOU WANT TO LEARN TO PLUG INTO THE TRUE SOURCE OF LOVE, LIGHT, & POWER?

(which will connect you to God's inexpressible Loving-Kindness)

And UN-PLUG from THE FALSE SOURCE of deception, falsehoods, and misrepresentations, surrounding religion and your relationship with God?

THEN, YOU'RE IN THE RIGHT PLACE!


IS THIS YOU?

I need to tell the truth and be forever free from the false indoctrination of men?

I want to find the language to express my own religious trauma?

want to "see" God and experience His True Unconditional Love?

want to allow God to define Himself to me, personally?


Here's the secret:

You no longer have to feel empty, angry, guilty, shamed, disconnected, unloved, unaccepted, not good enough, misunderstood, distrustful, isolated, or unable to form deep connections with others, when you're...

SEEN.

HEARD. 

UNDERSTOOD. 

AND SUPPORTED.

Inside STRONGLIFE COMMUNITY.



THE SCATTERED FLOCK OF GOD'S FOLD HEALING FROM RELIGIOUS TRAUMA

to re-frame our connection to God by...

UNRAVELING the Trauma,

INSTILLING the Truth,

and CREATING a New Story.


OF UNCONDITIONAL LOVE WE'RE DISCOVERING AND LEARNING TO APPLY

-TOGETHER-  

The TRUE PRINCIPLES OF PSYCHOLOGY AND HEALING found in the Bible and other sources of truth and inspiration, includingobserving the methods and techniques Jesus used with individuals.

Allow God to define Himself to us, personally, and FEEL a deep sense of true connection to Him and His inexpressible Loving-Kindness.

ENJOY healthy relationships with proper boundaries.
OVERCOME wrong thinking patterns that no longer serve us.
And STEP into our personal mission and calling.

COMMUNITY, BOOKS, EXPERIENCE PATH COURSES, AND LIVE GROUP COACHING


24 HOUR ACCESS

Protected, Secure, & Safe

This is NOT FACEBOOK.

No rabbit holes or endless distractions.

Instead, STRONG LIFE COMMUNITY is housed on a protected, secure, and safe community platform you can access from anywhere in the world by computer, or using the network app on your phone.
We chose this unique private setting so we can focus on important issues, safely, and without outside interruptions
We live in what some might call an INFORMATION AGE ON STEROIDS. There’s so much stuff out there! Books. Podcasts. Blogs. Webinars. YouTube. The list goes on and on. Pretty much anyone, anywhere can go out and get information on any topic at any moment. 
BUT I realized there’s something magical about tackling a challenge or learning something new AS PART OF A COMMUNITY. Community allows us to achieve results and transformation we just can’t achieve on our own. It's the single best way to build new practices and change habits. THAT’S why I started this!

Dear Child of God, Person of Faith, Disciple of Jesus, Sheep of the Flock, Worshiper of God, Christian, or Believer (or once was one of these)

My name is Debra.

Inside STRONGLIFE Community I'd like to show you how I overcame generational spiritual abuse and religious trauma, and went from an insecure victim of others control, to a meaningful, inspireddeeply connected life.
When I created this community, I thought about how God had led me through many trials and tribulations, and how He landed my safely on  the other side, where I am today.
12 years ago, you would have seen a dedicated, loyal-hearted, always busy doing the externals and forms, kind of Christian. But in reality I was overloaded, overwhelmed, disconnected, alone, worried, and troubled. 
Today, after choosing a "new" path of genuine transformation, I am truly free, inspired, motivated, and aware, with a deep sense of knowing God's Loving-Kindness. I now understand my own strengths, gifts, talents, mission, and life purpose.
But most importantly, I have the privilege to truly understand and feel God's Unconditional Love for me as He defines Himself to me, personally. This experience has given me the ability to recover and heal, and to have the capacity to share my story with others.

A SNAPSHOT OF MY LIFE

A journey of freedom from indoctrinated false belief systems and trauma patterns that followed, to deeply connected overcomer.


→ Start Point

ENTERING BEGINNING OF MY JOURNEY

Insecure victim of false religious beliefs and control

a life influenced by the control of others, creating a need to  control others myself, and be in charge of my own circumstances and outcomes, directed by an externally oriented, disconnected, and intuitively lacking Debra.

NOTE: Loved and trusted in man more than God.

This was me BEFORE...

Then this happened...

→ The Messy Middle Of My Life

THE STUFF, THE PAIN, THE TRAUMA, AND NEVER-ENDING OBSTACLES

A disruption of the old patterns making way for a new life

False Beliefs, Religious Trauma, Sorrow, Suffering, Pain, Difficult Life Experiences, Disconnected, Shame, Not Good Enough, Isolated, Feels Like A Victim.

NOTE: My life experiences became my education and my teachers.

THE SACRED PARTS OF MY SOUL WAILED INSIDE OF ME.pdf

This is me AFTER...

→ End Point

EMERGING FROM THE OTHER SIDE

Inspired advocate for a meaningful, deeply connected life

a life influenced and directed by the newly transformed, inspired, motivated, aware, and truly free Debra, mixed with a balance of true strengths, gifts, and skills she gained through her life.

NOTE: Deep connection, left insecurities & fears behind.


MY JOURNEY MOVED ME FROM:

Insecure victim of false religious beliefs to an inspired deeply connected over-comer.

←  But those are the end points  →

It's the stuff, and the pain, and the trauma, and the never ending obstacles that happened in "the messy middle", that's important.

You see... the hardest parts (the messy middle) of my journey became my education. These things came in to disrupt the old patterns, leading me to UNRAVEL the trauma, INSTILL the truth, and CREATE a new story for my life.
The transformation itself wasn't instant. It wasn't like flicking a light switch. Click. Done. Sadly, no. Doesn't work like that. 
The only way to experience the transformation was to embrace the higher parts of myself - choose the call to adventure, go on the journey, and enter the battle. 
Experience the trauma of suffering
Navigate obstacles
Slay the "monsters"
The "secret" elixir I discovered and wanted to share - through my story, -through my testimony -through my mission -would help others to navigate through the battle and crisis and emerge safely on the other side, too.


All who in this world render true service to God or man receive a preparatory training in the school of sorrow. The weightier the trust and the higher the service, the closer is the test and the more severe the discipline. Ed.p. 151
Inside STRONGLIFE Community, I'll share with you my story and the exact process I used to overcome my own religious trauma, how I used my "lessons in sorrows" to rebuild my life, and how I found my life purpose and mission.

YOU CAN DO THIS TOO - EVEN IF YOU'RE SCARED!.pdf


But, how do I know I've experienced "religious trauma?"

Try this survey and see if anything sounds familiar...

  • Someone who has a story or struggle surrounding religious trauma.
  • Those who've witnessed injustices and misrepresentations of God and want to know how to approach it all.
  • People who have a need to tell the truth (and be seen, heard, understood, and supported) and be forever free from false indoctrination and teachings.
  • Those interested in having a conversation (a long overdue one) about our "Christian" concepts, education and experiences. Specifically, those that misrepresent "God's True Character" and may have caused "trauma patterns" surrounding their relationship to God and others.
  • People that desire a more genuine experience and a more solid framework
  • Those that want to be more connected to God and to others (with proper boundaries).
  • People that want to overcome old thinking patterns (possible traumas) that no longer serve them.
  • Someone who finds value in improving their own experience and being an example to those around them.
  • People that value learning from others life experiences and wisdom.
  • Those that desire to be in a community of like-minded people on a healing journey.
  • Those that appreciate a unique perspective or fresh approach from the "Status Quo".

STRONGLIFE Community has three distinct spaces

Healing Religious Trauma

Common Sense Psychology 

Creative Christian Parenting


Inside these spaces are rooms

The HE IS ENOUGH Room

The FINDING FREEDOM Room

The PARENTING Room


Inside the rooms are events, coaching calls, and experience path courses, and more, much more!

  • A Personal Intake Review So we can get to know you and your personal needs.
  • LIVE Streams from the STRONGLIFE Team.
  • Discussions & Chats - Post comments, questions, photos, files, and videos, as you interact with others inside the community. Get and give support.
  • Weekly Articles Get notified when we drop new articles every week on subjects that interest you.
  • Monthly Themes & Activities Monthly themes and activities to keep us focused.
  • Interest Groups - Find people with the same interests: parents, home-schoolers, teachers, coaches & counselors, prison ministry, health workers, pastors, addictions recovery, etc.
  • Libraries - Go to the things that interest you: Thoughts on Religious Trauma, Member Spotlights, Recovery & Addictions, True Principles, Letters to Parents, Sacred Sorrows, Survival Patterns, Navigating Disappointment, and others.
  • Member Spotlight - We "spotlight" members of our community so we can get to know each other as real people with real lives and feel a real connection to each other.
  • LIVE Behind the Scenes - We post flash LIVE STREAMS of our real lives behind the scenes to give you insight into what The STRONG LIFE Community™ Team is doing "behind the scenes".
  • Access to the Team for Support - Ask questions or chat with team members inside the community.
  • Coaching Calls in each space.
  • Experience Path Courses.
  • And more!

Some thoughts from STRONGLIFE COMMUNITY members...

I was living with fear as a core motivation for some of the decisions in my life, and I was tired of it. Boxed in by my own expectations of myself and the lack of confidence in myself (trauma patterns), I really began to feel the need for a big change. Now, having begun to grasp the truth about my connection to God, I have found freedom in so many ways I never knew I needed! I am free because God created me as a "free moral agent", and individual, capable of making my own choices with no strings attached. I have learned to love others and give them freedom too. Because life is about so much more than me. But I matter. And you, dear reader, do too. -Simone Farinholt
I am having some "light-bulb moments", or spiritual epiphanies, if you will, as I read these materials. It's very healing. I am finding healing by simply reading it! My soul is discovering that maybe healing really IS possible for me thru Christ. That maybe I don't have to be satisfied with the status quo. There have always been things about me that I just assumed I would never have peace about, traits that would never improve, even with God's help. As I read, it's like the Holy Spirit is right next to me, telling me that all of these promises, these principles, this *healing* is for me too, and nothing about me is a lost cause. -Tricia Williams
It's inspiring to not only be able to tell my story but hear other's life challenges and how they are finding peace and freedom. M. Harris

I WROTE TWO BOOKS TO SUPPORT AND HELP YOU ON YOUR JOURNEY

(And they are inside STRONGLIFE Community waiting for you!)

This is my story of overcoming generational 

SPIRITUAL ABUSE and RELIGIOUS TRAUMA.


HE IS ENOUGH

Read the Introduction and Chapter 1

HE IS ENOUGH BOOK PREVIEW.pdf


Listen to the Audio-Book Preview 

Read by Debra with Slides

This frank and honest memoir extends beyond Debra's story alone. It's been written to encourage the countless other freedom-seekers on their journeys, and for that reason I am grateful and inspired. Simone F. , Weimar, CA, Nursing Student

As a survivor of spiritual abuse, reading Debra's story gave voice to areas of my life that I couldn't name. It felt like a hug from a big sister returning after a long period of separation. Her healing journey is both inspiring and liberating. Now I know that things do get better. I'm empowered to continue pressing on in my journey. Faith G., Nairobi, Kenya, Founder of Learn & Grow

I had the unique perspective of reading HE IS ENOUGH while it was being written. Debra gives herself to the reader, and while it is her story, we can all see ourselves here. The recovery from religious trauma has shown itself, through this book, to be one of the greatest needs in our churches today. There is hope, and HE IS ENOUGH! God's unconditional love is the key to everything! Robert F., Harrison, AR, Dealer/Distributor - EV Power Pods

Why I Wrote This Story

WHY I WROTE THIS STORY.pdf

Learn more about this book here:

www.healingreligioustrauma.org

FINDING FREEDOM

This is our new introduction book to COMMON SENSE PSYCHOLOGYfeaturing Frank A. Newman, a prisoner incarcerated for a serious offense, who met Mrs. Lois Eggers, a prison counselor, and learned about the true principles.

Read the Introduction and Chapter 1 & 2

Finding Freedom Book Preview.pdf


Listen to the Audio-Book Preview



STANDING BEHIND YOU

Why We're Here

We are a unique and varied team of individuals all here for our own reasons, with our own stories, and experienced backgrounds. 

WE ARE NOT trauma specialists, grief counselors, psychologists, psychiatrists, doctors, psychotherapists, disorder analysts, or theologians. (But we welcome those that are!)
We're actually seed planters, principle teachers, educational guides, boundary mentors, habit helpers, victory celebrators, coaching collaborators, inspiration bearers, friends in Christ, and encouragers to ALL!
And just to simplify that... we're people just like you, on a journey of our own, towards freedom, hope, and a deeper connection with God. 
People who want to share what we've learned along the way, and grow together with those that have the same hopes and dreams.
To help get to know our team we asked them each this question.

QUESTION: Why are you here?


Ron: Because I feel the Lord wants me here and I want to do His will. I have believed it to be the Lord’s work ever since I first heard about Common Sense Psychology.
Kay: To tell others about the true principles of psychology found in the Holy Scriptures and to share the methods of Jesus Christ, our Wonderful Counselor.  I hope this Strong Life Community will flourish with time.  This would fulfill Mother’s wish, that Common Sense Psychology Foundation keeps growing.

Ron & Kay (Eggers) White - Son-in-law and Daughter of Mrs. Lois Eggers, Editor, Contributor and Consultants at Common Sense Psychology™ and STRONG LIFE Community™.


Debra: To share my story, and the comfort I've received, so precious souls like you can find hope and true freedom.

Debra Shafer, Mt. Shasta, CA Manager (COO), Content Creator, Teacher, & Coach at Common Sense Psychology™ and STRONG LIFE Community™.


Faith: To offer hope, help and healing as you thrive in your healing journey.

Faith Gor, Nairobi, Kenya Director of Creative Christian Parenting, Teacher, & Coach at Common Sense Psychology™ and STRONG LIFE Community™.


Jeelyn: I am here because I believe in divine appointments. You got here for a reason and I am here to help.

Jeelyn Marisagan, Loma Linda, CA Shipping, Accounting, & Social Media at Common Sense Psychology™ and STRONG LIFE Community™.


Allyson: I love to work with people! I want them to know they are special and valuable.

Allyson Lassen, Sebastapol, CA Customer Happiness Specialist at Common Sense Psychology™ and STRONG LIFE Community™.


Simone: To encourage the truth that we can live in true, individual freedom without sacrificing one iota of principle.

Simone Farinholt, Weimar, CA Event Contributor & Inspiration Collaborator at Common Sense Psychology™ and STRONG LIFE Community™.


Hannah: I want to help facilitate Christlike, genuine, open, and honest conversations about issues people don't talk about.

Hannah Williams, Weimar, CA Event Contributor & Inspiration Collaborator  at Common Sense Psychology™ and STRONG LIFE Community™.


Our aim inside STRONGLIFE COMMUNITY is for you to experience a journey of TRANSFORMATION, and have a little fun and adventure along the way!


A JOURNEY OF TRANSFORMATION

Start Here. End Here.


Our "Experience Paths" are unique and designed to take you from "The Starting Point" where you are now to "The End Point" where you want to go. We take this journey together.

These paths are not ordinary courses intended to load you with more information, instruction, intellectual knowledge, and rules to follow. 
Nope. 
They are designed with short, to-the-point lessons and small steps of action to take along the way. In just a few minutes a day you can experience the transformation you desire as you move towards freedom. 
All experience path courses are available to every subscribing member of STRONGLIFE Community. 


HEALING RELIGIOUS TRAUMA

The Path To A Healthy Relationship With God

Unconditional Love-Education-Experiences

This "Experience Path" will help you to unravel your religious trauma story, instill the truth, and create a new story for your life.

It takes you on a journey of freedom from the indoctrination of man and the trauma patterns it creates, to a deeply connected experience with God and those around you. 
The aim of this path is to find freedom to use the individual gifts and talents God created in you, and help you live a meaningful life, with purpose.
This is Debra's Signature Course beginning in August 2023.

This experience is led by Debra Shafer and the STRONG LIFE team.


MAKING BETTER CHOICES

The Path To Finding Freedom

The Mind-The Heart-The Spirit

This "Experience Path" will help you dive deeper into the concept and principles of Common Sense Psychology™ and how to apply them to your life.

It takes you on a journey of discovering the "True Principles" of Psychology found in the Bible and other Inspired Writings. 
The "Will" and decision making will be covered, and how to use your "gifts" or "mind faculties" for good. The mind, thoughts, feelings, actions, habits, character, and destiny are explored.
The aim of this path is to discover a Biblical escape route for breaking free from uncertainty and emotional stress to find freedom, improved relationships, new habits, and a balanced life.
This experience is available now inside STRONGLIFE Community.

This experience is led by Debra Shafer and the STRONG LIFE team.


HEALING THE HOME

The Path To Healthy Families

Encouragement-Principles-Tools 

This "Experience Path" will help you gain tools to best Understand, Connect and Relate with Children as you impact their lives.

It takes you on a journey of authenticity, faith and adventure as you heal the child within while relating to the children around you from a healthy space. 
The aim of this path is to equip you to 'be the teacher you needed when you were younger.'
This experience is available now inside STRONGLIFE Community.

This experience is led by Faith Gor and the STRONG LIFE team.


RISE ABOVE CHILD SEXUAL TRAUMA AND THRIVE!

Own Your Voice. Honor Your Story. Thrive!

Understanding-Awareness-Recovery

This "Experience Path" will help you recognize the importance of your own story as you hear Faith Gor tell hers.

It takes you on a journey of hope, understanding, compassion, and gentle recovery.
The aim of this path is to understand how deeply loved you are, and to help you see, you are not alone. Faith shares how God took her feeling of brokenness and turned it into beauty, and how He took what others may have mistaken as trash, and created beautiful works of art instead.
This experience is available now inside STRONGLIFE Community.

This experience is led by Faith Gor and the STRONG LIFE team.


HEALING JESUS' WAY

The Path To Helping Others

Observing Jesus Working With Individuals

This "Experience Path" will help you understand the ways Jesus served individuals and the "Methods and Techniques" He used.

This is our STRONGLIFE Certification Program and is a 12 month program.
It takes you on a journey of understanding the sensitive nature of Jesus, and how He honors and respects each person as an individual, with their own special needs, throughout history and today.
The aim of this path is to see the "Methods and Techniques" Jesus used to heal people and give them hope, and apply them in your own experience, relationships, and connections to others, as well as,  equip you to be a "Life Coach" and "Teacher".
This STAND ALONE experience is targeted to be released in Fall 2023.

This experience is led by Debra Shafer and the STRONG LIFE team.


ASK ANYTHING!

Get coached on your own personal life situations.

These coaching sessions are the highlight of the week inside STRONGLIFE COMMUNITY, and the most valuable part of our interaction together. 

Debra & Faith, our life coaches, host these calls inside STRONGLIFE COMMUNITY.

STRONGLIFE COMMUNITY hosts three different kinds of calls.

Healing Religious Trauma Coaching Call

Finding Freedom Coaching Call

Creative Christian Parenting Coaching Call

You can join anytime or watch the replays!

LIVING A STRONGLIFE

Imagine 90 Days From Now

After walking the experience path of "HEALING RELIGIOUS TRAUMA", Debra's Signature Course, which includes weekly group coaching.

  • You have a deeper and more direct connection to God, His Inspiration, and His Providential Leading, and are moving forward in your life with the right kinds of motivation fueling your experience.
  • You truly understand the impact of becoming "free" in your life and have gained an awareness that helps you look at your life honestly, and with grace, mercy, and love.
  • You understand the "True Principles" that govern you and your relationship to God and others, and you know how to apply them to your own experience for the rest of your life.
  • You know what the True Science of Salvation is and how you connect and cooperate with God through His Power and Love.
  • You've discovered Jesus' "Methods and Techniques" and you understand how He works in your own life making it possible to help others using the same wholesome and unique approach.
  • Your life experiences are more genuine and you're making authentic connections with others.
  • You see a true transformation in your own life and understand how this process is moving you forward into a real life purpose mission using your God-given gifts and talents.

Come all the way in. Sit all the way down. Stay awhile.

ARE YOU READY FOR FULL ACCESS TO:

  • THE STRONGLIFE TEAM

  • THE COMMUNITY DISCUSSIONS, CHATS, & ACTIVITIES

  • THE BOOKS

  • THE EXPERIENCE PATH COURSES

  • THE EVENTS

  • THE COACHING CALLS

  • LIKE-MINDED PEOPLE ON THE SAME JOURNEY



STRONGLIFE MEMBERSHIP

Normally $39.00/month

Right now → $29.00/month

While we test our "beta" mini-course

 TRUTH OVER TRADITION - A Roadmap To Recovering From Religious Trauma

It's FREE! → Right here.


Contact Us At: [email protected]


How do I know if this community is really for me?

If you or someone you know wants to break free using a reliable Biblical escape route from uncertainty and emotional stress to find freedom, improved relationships, new habits, and a balanced life, you're in the right place.
If you or someone you know has experienced spiritual abuse of any kind, you're in the right place
If you want to know how to help and support those healing from spiritual abuse, and the trauma patterns that follow, you're also in the right place.
If you or someone you know wants to become a creative christian parent or leader, you're also in the right place.
Lastly, if you or someone you know wants to coach and teach others, you're definitely in the right place.

Welcome to the community designed to set you on a proven and recognized path of true freedom and genuine transformation. 


Come on in. 

We're waiting for you.